The Practice Of Patience

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i decided we would continue and welcome everybody
so we didn't like gallery
have to be looking at monza

about a year ago

i noticed how dark it was on my pathway or lot and so i decided i'd better get some lives case anyone know stumbles on the pathway to my house so i ordered some really inexpensive lives and i thought olds are not even gonna work for they paid as
the thing for them flat okay let's just give it a go better then complete dark so i put them in no didn't think anything of it but one night i was going on to get my mail and
i was struck it seen these bright shiny lights and the had this warm glow and they were all lined up like little soldiers at the like greeting me this is the experience that i had i just felt so opened and just connected to him
and i just began laughing he resists is really wonderful moment and i just all i could do is bound a moment and thanked him and you know that feeling has really really stayed with me when i see them at night i just gonna give them a little off nod
and this reminded me of the practice of not treating anything like an object including ourselves
and it's it's made me more aware of we hear this all the time but maybe it's finally getting it embodied is our interconnection with both inanimate objects as well as admin objects you know the insect world the plant world the animal work
was feeling more more connected with them
immediately they say we have the same composition as the stars we come from the stars
in everything and everyone
consists of the four primary elements we have the earthiness were made from the earth fire you know we get warm hot
water i don't know what percentage but water we are mostly water and air you know our breath coming in and out
and so with practice
i mean getting his see how how
composed exactly we are with everything in every one
we are the same in so many ways
in another tina was made aware up with this was
so jin often reminded of some this was don't treat anything or anyone like an object including ourselves
the we are showing respect that way
and my first teaching of this was with darlene cohen who was my route teacher and one day
she acts i was with her and she accidentally bumped into a chair
and she apologized to well i was so surprised and impressed by that i just i hadn't that was just die my consciousness
and we saw surgeon often demonstrate that the way he held a teacup and him reminding us don't move this alba todd which is the black matte that we put our pushing on don't move it was your foot stepped down pay respect room with your hands
so he said his retreat everything and everyone like ourselves
all of these inanimate objects incentive beams you know their to everything everything's doing their job to support us when you think about that
certainly all of the natural world to earth that we stand on grass is put the dog and talks about the grass the walls the tiles the pebbles and our electronic devices in this modern age they're here to support us and help us
do our work that we want to do on this planet earth you know all everything around us our household appliances
they are all in some way expressing and teaching us the dharma
suzuki roshi said we should respect everything
and we can practice respecting things on the way we relate to them
so how do we take care of things and objects is really how we are learning to take care of ourselves
a on others and vice versa the way we take care of ourselves when others
teaches us how to treat objects to sell all that inner connection stinger or one follows that
so remembering them have just remembering them
you know right now i have rats in my home again
and this about the third time now so it's it's really having any look at how am i relating to them how am i feeling about them
where's my practice with the rats
so how do we remember
our interdependence our connection
with each other
when there's so many dharma gave said the his practice offers s
how do experience and break down these walls of separation
just just dove that's a whole practice really breaking down these walls of as separation or one of our practices so that we feel at one with everything in every one
it's finding that common humanity
within lima the harmony of equality of our sameness and our differences
so besides our physical composition of these four elements
there's a lot of things we have in common that we can connect with first of all our basic needs
hierarchy of needs that maslow described you know we all we all want and need food and shelter from peace we want peace
bottom line we want to be love and be loved
so that set sense of connection and belonging
and due to our own personal karma our upbringing our experiences these causes and conditions you all of those things
yeah made cause his feelings of separation
recognizing more each a unique person
perhaps a complicated person was a complicated life
yeah at the very core of our being is that place of fullness to sit the very least like a less than a dot what we call it art buddha nature
then is always there though it may be covered up to causes and conditions
karma that we have
now as we have all these sadnesses we also have differences and this is i think what causes us are separations
first while we each look differently each are unique that's actually really great wouldn't really want everybody looking the same
but we have other things that may cause division our cultural differences
political differences
religious differences
so how can we relate to each other in spite of these differences and see them really as part of us aren't of ourselves that sameness and spot an within our differences
we are one
the the questions how can we get along with all of us with each other
scuse me soon to be having some allergies today
to where where can we meet each other
where can we legal or preferences step out of ourselves
let go of wanting to be the right one having the last word
it's letting go of our self centered this
so that we can feel this oneness
i read that to beat and tibet and teacher said the essence of dharma was not the harm anybody that's our practice how do we practice not harming anybody
it's that warm hand to warm hand
then there's so many ways we have so many dharma gates to do this to practice in
we have the precepts
all about relationship and specifically there's four of them that are up about relationship and how we bridge that gap of separation
there's the floor measurable or the bought from of a hero's lisa wants to pick up as well loving kindness all of these we need to get along with each other to compassion are sympathetic joy equity
mit and the list goes on
so currently i'm looking at one will not just currently really all the time
the beginning of time is my mother reminded me
is one of the para muitos the power meters that which make means the crossing over to the other side
they weren't practicing these to cross over to liberate liberation who want to be free of our fetters in the one i'm working with is
patience but sometimes we call it endurance and the pali word is ashanti
tip not harm he calls it inclusiveness we didn't understand that at first but
if you think of when you might feel pain has been inflicted upon you
or even by by an enemy or even one that loves you the inclusiveness is that you receive that
embrace it take it in and then transform that seeing the truth about that
you know after prince philip died i heard this this little clip on on television
that out
he said
i don't know he he was celebrating one of those anniversaries fifty sixty seventy one of those of big numbers
and he said the secretive his marriage was tolerance tolerance as really another word for endurance patience and that most certainly anyone in the long term relationship with it knows that but not even long term a good friend requires patience
because sooner or later you're gonna run into differences
the course
the other side of patients is impatience
and they can be small in the day we can have many
small little annoyance
system disaster asteraceae her frustration
oh good even in patients can be expressed by even turning away from it like an apathy or indifference that same patience
very small
but taking us into our separation
and i'm talking about with people this is worth our relationships
an and in some of the times's impatient can come out his resentment mrs canada or the other spectrum
words the big impatience
bitterness aggression
come out like is like rage your fury
marianna on monday expressed oh she was talking about a on and him as co-owner blue the schrage really caught me is like swallowing a red hot iron ball and sometimes when we're so enraged to can feel like there
sona talk about three different elements of patience
and this is in the framework of relationships
the first one is perseverance
and so this is really the continuity of practice with patients over and over perseverance
they were and when you have that impatience is so we need to be fully in the moment whatever comes at us as that patients arises
nothing while the best things is just stopping
taking a breath so you can experience whatever emotion it is
pain or age
and then just gently persevering through those difficulties those moments
i think one of the most effective ways to develop this is through our awesome
every it takes great patience
to sit through our pain
in our discomfort
strong emotions
and just to be with them to take the man
for the can be physical pain or emotional pain but when we do that over and over and over again sitting with that taking that in it is really developing patience
and when we get off get off from get up off the cushion or from our chair
that development carries on into our lie so we can feel the results of patience
and when we're on when we're doing that sauce and were also
does aware of our breath and feeling kindly towards out
being so familiar with breath
so we're learning did not turn away from that
suzuki roshi he didn't think god this was the correct
translation for patience perseverance he thought a better word was constancy constancy
that's certainly describes her perseverance
because there's no when constancy those there's kind of new particular effort involved
rather it's the ability to just accept severe in accept things as they are

the second element of patience is patients under insult
or even what we take in as an insult
that's how we interpret it
and so patience is learning how to not give into that anger or hostility or even an insult that we might that we feel maybe someone has hurt us hurt our feelings or something
learn how to not give in to that
so course it requires and it was stepping back taking their breath
and looking at it where where does that route of anger or hurt come from
what's really what what is it in assets interpreting that way and seeing that that way
why it is such a strong reaction in me
you know this could even happen with our electronic devices
no something does work the phone cell phone the computer
they stop working or too slow
can't get to the website off you know a hundred things can't get to the spreadsheet or whatever
we believe in the device
that's funny right it's their fault or it's the company's for
to serve as just insert see those comic strips of people are yelling as for devices and throwing them in the air if adam
hope and so where the devices fault
no things do stop working
it's a practicing patience and room what can i do about this up in and fix this
so that third element is acceptance of the truth
we have our reactions
and then we step back and then we have to examine the situation
to recognize will will what is really true here
what is true lol am i seen as what
what is my side of this
disaster my side i can i can change
i can see it differently
no patient really has it has a lot to do with getting smart
see at the at at that point in just waiting waiting it out right not speaking are doing anything
and that's hard because of course sometimes we want to lash out
but on the other hand it also means
being completely and totally honest with ourselves about the fact
before a furious or hurt not not pushing that away but taken that in
for the essence of patience is resiliency
they able to recover find some benefit in the situation
of course it requires great compassion for ourselves and others
will sometimes sometimes we hurt ourselves more than others
i have an example of of my ah called to the irs this was a few years ago and i hadn't got my refund and i i needed to pay some bills
and ah so i called them fine told what i needed first call with fine
but i didn't hear from them nothing and also do with me and was like over well over a month call them again in a push you get a new rap every time so they're starting from ground zero and even though the read in the nodes they're going to try a different
or okay who to try this again okay fine third call
same thing different wrap read the notes will know that was wrong they didn't do it right
we're going to do it this way
okay wait can i expect an answer
so what i call that same thing
new rap new way to do it so
i'm starting to get impatient
so i take nor up and have to take this into in hand and i'm i'm going to have to be with a lot more from so i think i practice you know what i'm gonna say
in my stern voice what i want when i want to buy what could i expect so okay i called them back don't even really let them say anything they're not not very skillful communication but i started it fine you know been very from but i noticed
i got swept away in the best i was escalating higher and higher and higher to the point where i was really upset and my whole body was just on fire really
they took me several hours several hours to get all that negative emotion out of me just to kind of calm down you know when you get you so upset she almost like shaking
and of course i had to
face sad and like that was definitely not skillful and not worth it to me i was a big lesson
and of course
no feeling
not not very well at all about what i had done to that representative
so sometimes practicing with your enemies i'll call him my enemy with more like the i harass episiotomy not the person or people we know don't even like that that it really can be considered a gift
because i have helped me practice with patience
might have heard of shanti deva
we had his own demons i imagine
i was inspired by his writings on acceptance or patience but he was up he was just briefly in eighth century monk born in southern india in his father was a it was a king and of course his father dies and he was expected to be now the king when he had a very powerful dream and
and are he wanted to take the spiritual path and he had always been spiritual as a as a child even really love the dharma studied the dharma very learned
so he did he went to a monastery he became a monk
and he was not very popular though because he didn't look like he studied at all
or do any any didn't participate in the work activities of a monastery in fact the months to saw him as sitting around eating sleeping and strolling about
as though he knew nothing
and of course they were starting to get quite impatient with him then they wanted to test him make a fool of them really and
so they invited him to speak thinking oh this will do it he doesn't know of then he's gonna be embarrassed
et cetera
so he did accepted he arose to the throne and he gave us long incredible talk which was translated as the way of the bodhisattva
but it was impressed there's not a lot of chapters but one is this chapter on patients than he goes on for quite a long time and i'm thinking well he had his own practice was patience he must have had to take all that ridicule
from the monks couldn't he couldn't have avoided that not have seen that it must have been
maybe be painful and then he may have felt impatience towards them how they treated him
though he knew a lot about patience and also must really thought about how the spiritual path requires such a key element for our practice patience
to one of his verses of impatience it he talks about accepting an enduring our own suffering
it that suffering is route our our problems they have their good qualities too
for example when we suffer it lower sorry you don't get this impatient it lowers our arrogance so he really we really knew we learn humility and i learned humility with the irs guy that brought me to my knees
he also suggests it's kind of me me laugh at you know view people as crazy was the day lot of people are crazy or would view as crazy or like a cranky baby and when you view in that way it will how could you possibly get angry at them
that's kind of any namibia little humor
the helping us with patience
so in an instead of trying to overcome all these external enemies it's really about looking within our own internal enemy which is anger or some sort of impatience
so all of these practices
really requires to give up our self centeredness and selfishness
and help us to bridge that gap of separation
the brute buddha said that the roof he even said that selfishness is the root of our problems
but cellular i often remember sojourn talking about
our self centredness getting way
because when we do
let go of that self centeredness we it helps to step out of our suffering
when we're so self centered and selfish
and one way that helps me is the practice of bowing
he's kind of goes along with respecting all things are not take anything said objects
suzuki roshi he took that as a very serious practice bowing said that is a very serious practice
mt said you should be prepared to bow even in your very last moment
and even though it is impossible to get rid of our self centered nature desires we have to do it
because our true nature wants us to do it
and so certain described as when we bout to someone we really bowing to ourselves
we're meeting ourselves in that bow
he goes on to say when we found a buddha
we are bowing to are true or fundamental nature of buddha nature or buddha nature
so in big mind
everything has the same value everything is buddha himself
so anything we bow to me bowing to my lights me bowing to the i'm a little boat in my kitchen before i start to serve a meal
we bout to our animals or plants go out just to spank them with gratitude
it's a it's a really nice practice maybe we don't when a neighbour comes by maybe i don't do the fall by which can do a little nod as that's equivalent of a bow to someone who might think you're crazy
so it's own i hope will make it back to the center weekend we can start vowing to each other
all of these actions that i've talked about
not tree anything or anyone like an object including ourselves
sure nice that respect for all things and all people
bowing to inanimate objects to others and to ourselves
remembering our oneness through the practice of patience
all of these things
can help us cultivate a kind environment for ourselves
for all things and for all beings
let me end by saying if i have been impatient with you and i do list of of your hair please forgive me i will try hard
thank you
i think we have time for questions or comments
just thank you for we have lots of time for comments and questions i have a one hour please feel free to raise your digital hand or to send a text to add to the chat and that we will see what carol has to say

colonel no one has a raise your hand i would go to do so myself i was just like joe speak for is joe please go right ahead i tell me a new you and let me put you on the screen please
check and time
help i needed you say you can see i think i'm okay can you gary yes i care ah so i was wondering if you were able to same thing about some discerning between patients and hesitation maybe you know on
sometimes it feels like i need to one
take that step back and sometimes maybe were hesitating so i didn't know a few add anything to say about that sort of relationship
well ah like should have we'd have to look at with that hesitancy is about
maybe it's fear the fear of talking a bit
i'm i'm not sure
what to think about that on
yeah ha ha just how to describe hesitancy for yourself

i suppose i'm thinking of not acting maybe you know not on
i am waiting for
i guess i can i can maybe think that i'm waiting for information i'm waiting for information to act upon but on

he i suppose that's an important question of what is the hesitancy what is what is in here but it did it does it sounds like it could be a a workable function for you if you're stopping
i just the way to a little bit
it almost sounded like he went into your head get him rather may be just gonna go down with bitten presidency like feel if there's anything in the body like an emotion that's
be on
laughter stuff there

i'll serve a fun fact that i'm suzuki roshi really hated bowing when he was young
he found it really really difficult and so maybe that explains why he emphasizes so much later but i know i know it changed for him
thanks for sharing that still
okay we have a question now from peter over ten and let me yeah bring him on
my peter hart off
tell thank you for your have your talk from it was very painful for me in my life right now and i've been thinking a little bit about an aspect of it which you may have been talking about all along but you're not to be here i'll bet you were talking about the ras i started wondering are
iran's a physical phenomenon or the metal objects ah you know knows it is that a response mpi to be rats that were most interested in were white and i was gonna vote maybe my initial thought was something like how do you are how do we relate to our thoughts and feelings in such a way
that when i treat them as objects
and then any further you don't get any further ensnared in reactions and so on and so forth
that's a very good question so i'm a non-practicing with my patients with them while i was thinking today about how well what good are they will they do provide food
for other animals birds etc
yeah they're very smart to meet and learn a lot from one kg but
could have give up do not give up this their time the round and i just like they woke me up this morning just scratching like why haven't joined to get any others nothing like an error
i think it's our mental feeling about m will they have a bad reputation
three bad may may maybe the three the three blind math the three blindness bad for the
revised viceroy okay by so cute
but it wasn't about the three lying ras was it
but a physically you know certain they tell me what i did didn't have that first incident he said all get rid of them get rid of them get it liberated me that was feeling bad about it but
but you know we're driving all of those in animals and things out of the hills
in the coming down on lower because they don't have water we all have things to eat so i'm thinking rule that too
it's a conundrum
i have visited away or with you can take action to protect your space without them
i get drawn to sort of life
protective and answer well
are you know disliking they're absolutely you know something something where you to be accept them but also accept your need and same time
well i'm actually happy knowing their here however we are taking action
that my guys coming at eleven thirty again
he's trying to seal up holes so you know letting them know there's nothing here for you
maybe go off in the hills again
thank you
i don't think about these things
thank you peter we have a question now from leslie by today carelessly and any bring you up
and hang on or please go ahead
hi jake i i i care on i have to out where are you have their your
i enjoy your talk up the idea of 'em
are not treating anything as an object really resonates with may end up
one thing you said about i think not always having to have the last word with someone and that's something i have a tendency toward be at a conversation about the warriors are a philosophy or politics at
that struck me that whenever i had docusign with
our surgeon roshi
never had the last word who didn't if he ever had the last word with be and docusign
a but he huge smile and by hung that was it and i'm wondering how do you work with that particularly not having the last word something i workers
hilda i don't know how are you describing sodium
what happened what the well
in any docusign a now
if he would never take the last word with me he was just at some points usually smile and bath give a little at the of like that so that do it well well i'm torn about the last word is you don't be right yeah it was a prisons that euro topic
that will know but but you know that kind of thing not a friendly young hidden that's what you're talking about not like going to be with you what that's got the last were glance his ego thing an ego thing self centered
yeah how do you work with that
well try to shut my mouth but instead it out
and you know sometimes it requires an apology maybe not just at that moment lit and tip sometimes it takes me to integrate something and then i have to think about it like oh that was a true
like right space to run on i have to call or email a person to apologize
because sometimes things to come out of her mouth as ever been practice
to to learn to step back and just
no hesitate is joe searches top but all
really hard to do sometimes for wanna be right
part of being human
so it's a good practice
thank you jake and we now have a question from randy and we bring her up

go ahead please randy a go charlie
i'm charlie
can't hear you
well can hear can't hear you charlie
you're apparently not muted you know so i will add maybe you could send a text please you guys possible tourney
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you could put it in the chat
okay so i'll excuse me charlie and randy will come back to you hurry
and as we will know we can go to the next questioner which is
social i sue
please or thank you can use us very well thank you
ah carol thank you very much for your talk on i really got a lot out of at home
had some really strongly actions yesterday with birding friends
and and you set a lot of things about patience him
perhaps the need for apology
and the episode across the range from well i don't know if i were to be friends anymore it also crazy about that even sure what happened
him the thing you said about a practice of sitting
you know it gives us a chance to look at that
and maybe apologize or maybe see what's actually underneath that and snow sometimes having the last word when things feel political is really the end it's like a key danger sign to shut up
so i really thank you for the que su
yeah i think to arise for clues
thank you feel we have now equation from head had please show me one moment and we will add ed
hi carolyn i am could see you
whether other things i liked about your talk with you
he spoke about the quality of just listening
and i know that is something that i've had to learn and was things that is help me is to
cultivate the am a sense of curiosity
and i find that i'm that helps me let go of my judgments my need to be right
and a
and i just it just creates space so that so that
i can connect with you whenever i'm
talking with or
in conflict with perhaps or any other way so i just want to say that thank you for your thought oh thank you for that that is such a great practice
being curious yeah
right right
with you for sharing new
thank you read we have now got a question from about mckinnon and bob
please ask your question you should be spotlighted yes oh can you hear me
can you hear like echo vr and thank you
yeah thank you for your share
and i you know what came up for me that i got up that and when you said the hat having relationships with these objects like a chair and
and then you know you move up the so-called hierarchy of rats and so forth
really i never quite looked at it that way before and i think it would be
good practice for me to on
to to look into that and i'm one of the things that eh
one of the push button things with me as far as objectors computers
and on and you know i'm older sixty five saw have ah i'm not as fast as the younger people and i can get frustrated
a lot more easier and i guess is based upon your partly my conditioning and
and then something new and i am
and i think what i got add a your talk was
you know how you
change your relationship
with objects by saying i'm definitely and i'm wonder if you could talk a little bit about how you work with that
well ah
it gets really about seeing that the object is not doing something to me
the object doesn't have this kind of
evil intention to hurt me would you make me angry it's an object and i i need to respect it for for what it does do well and they break down
but it's really not the object you'll pay me back or something all the things that we think i mean less i think when we get so angry at the object oh and in it it has nothing related
it just rogue it didn't work
and then just been responsible possible going back to the company and explaining of this is not working
and even they you know don't take it off land because they're always trying to get it to work and there were again and so on and so forth and nobody would you really to blame not really we want to buy wanna find someone to buy
but ah it's just the practice of patience and and as i say then
what're you gonna do but take care of it
maybe be bound to which the
i can lighten it out for you
thanks where the service you did and did not do
to thank you bob
have you brought palm we have a question now we're going to go back to randy and
charlie please ask your question
can't hear you love
i still can't hear you
did you can go out and come back i charlie
this is unusual very sorry bombs the microphone gets hooked up if you had a different device or anything you will something happens with the microphone ah
if you messed around with your settings are you cook hooked up herbs vr headset or something
well let's go on for now and maybe we can again try to chat i kabir has a question holding kabir give me a moment here you are
please head island me good karabakh i could bear and i count
thank you so much for the great hug and thank you for mentioning shown today by he's like one of my heroes it arrived learn about god about women when i'm practicing tibetan buddhism so my i have a question i have a calming about your ass on the question is how do we practice patience for someone that
is harming our loved ones
ah so how do we are to practice patients towards that the perpetrator or the person that is doing the harm and we're seeing it
no so how do we that the desert because they're like okay fine you can harm me but while you're harming my wife or my daughter made some than he knows that's when this sort of justify to to go with anger and to tolerate to to retaliate and everything else so
how do we how do we practice patient dems
allow the thought that comes to me as you bring in some other practices like for stepping back and looking at it and then planning
without you'll wish you diffused your own upset a communication to a ride speech
without blaming
the eyes and practicing it beforehand is very effective
because what happens is that the action of the person and also triggers your own heart and your own past experiences that similar thing has happened to you so i think that also adds to the to the fire you know we are so you have to work with that first
so you can write
and then and then you could have some clarity
but you know how it feels so that right that's that's still in a world where it was painful because you take a and yourself
but it really requires a lot of skill skillful communication so that they can really say oh maybe they're maybe i am doing this
without them getting defensive
when you get to if they get defensive them baton
ground zero right
thank you and for the rest of my our daughter or friend and georgia believe it or not he has three rat pets that their own a carriage and he loved him he thinks that they're like the best path to have an economic too extreme in years
so there's always the extreme right
by peter was saying like you gotta fight so that's probably the milligram that needs to be accomplishes the old are you anyway so what is when he spoke about my daughter was dishes like oh my phone as three runs in georgia
okay so i don't know anyways thank you for a great talk is always good to you we you get maybe i'll have to get a cage by the king a better they love to go away
i only paid a payday candy bars someone didn't have time for through i did not go out with repeated i do want wanna i do want to add a story that is very famous in afghanistan so there's a a group of rats and a store and they're all being slaughtered by this really being kept so what happened was one of the rats decide
added that okay we need to go find a bell okay and they were gonna put that bell around the cat's neck and as soon as we hear the bell whom we're going to hi so we're gonna be safe so then when i hadn't the annabel bell was really heavy ones they brought it in another room
and if all spent around the the bell and you'll look at it and is it who the brave rat that is what to put that built around the cat's neck
so anyways
thank you know you're welcome thank you thank you could be a and we have an hour question we're going to try vandy have one more time on the please go ahead and peterlee
hello can you hear me now yes loud and clear amazing week i carol i wanna thank you very much for your taco was a marvelous tapestry between your personal experience than the dharma but rather than you know repeat what other people
of said i want i ask you how you prepare how you take the kernel of an idea for a talk and expanded
well i am i have my own personal experience i i'm putting that down and then i'm i'm just really more about it what what it says about it in the dharma it was in respect all things because that that actually deep is my
own understanding
i consider my understanding little bit at this level but as i read more can see all can get more perspective on it and maybe too many quotes i'm giving but i can't take the credit for with these things i don't feel because i didn't have a them
so are
that's a tricky thing and i wonder too many quotes too many what so unsettling but at the same time it's what i learned from them
does does that help yes very much thank you
oh charlie
thank you carol that we are now out of time though we have one more question it looks like from mostly is that still a hand you have
yes yes gonna go ahead enemies are you okay
hi carol thank you for your top hey i'm early on you talked about not treating things as objects including ourself on but you didn't say much more about that during all your little example so i wonder how do you practice with that
i'm just trying to be more kind to myself forgive myself
yeah just
little things that might tell myself i'm doing okay
a this term
stop sometimes when i'm going so fast and and down
offering myself from kindness i do a lot of it on the cushion on during saucer you look as you're still still wire i can
i can have a little more compassion for myself especially if there is pain or anchorages
be compassionate with myself
i was thinking to about aging and on things change or not you know
and that's that's sometimes seems like that can be objectified with of the you know i'm not to whatever whatever the issue in you know things change and on you don't not as quick as i used to be or ah i don't remember the acts so those are sometimes things that
can be treated i find you know it's like we have to be
gentle with ourselves as you said and on just see cause that's just part of wife right that we're going to while accepting accepting a accepting that oh this is different now and i'm you know where and you see all the younger people who haven't it's just differ
i think it's very big practice are accepted older age of that things were in the golden are the golden years is
hello patricia what's gold about it
cushion the you have a lot of president or in the same bossi he has a that's right
that helps a lot of all will listen to this point all hidalgo
yeah you know with you were doing it with humor because it you know her in attics accepting because our culture doesn't really support it either i really don't think this but this particular culture i think in other cultures they do for him but in this culture i don't think
wow we really gained builders have gained respect
oh no some some wisdom some learned experience
i noticed just walking down the street people looking look at you slink you're invisible okay
excellent recipe so as just the way the second all those things yeah thank you and que les