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so good morning
wholesome in a talk that he gave a few weeks ago started his talk by greeting as saying good morning body surface and i can hardly say how happy it made me the hear it because in my
first practice center there was a center who began each of his evening talks greeting us by saying good evening body surface and it was always a reminder to me a kind of row
a reflection kind of of our practice and our vow to live into bodhisattva ness
till this morning as i greet each of us in our
jewel boxes and be to all good morning bodhisattvas

oh i've been thinking a lot lately about choice about choosing how we make choices
both consciously and some with a full awareness and how we sometimes make choices a little bit underneath the conscious level
and as well considering the possible long term
effects of the choices that we make both on ourselves and in our in our in our world
course we're making choices pretty much every minute i don't know exactly how often we make them but a lot of times in the day and with start the morning lying in bed the alarm goes off and the first choice may be
do i wanna gather up and make coffee and have breakfasts or would i like to lie here for another half hour maybe i'll skip breakfast have a quick cup of coffee and the way there's that kind of choice
some more significant worms and as have been thinking about choice it seems to me to go to the very heart of how we practice the choices that we are making all long
so the educator and writer i've i know he wrote a book and i've forgotten at something about a highly successful people or seven secrets or whatever to highly successful people but he said this which i think is used for between stimulus and response
there is a space in that space life or freedom and power to choose our response and in those choices lie or growth and our happiness
so there are
legion articles and theories of about the concept of choice and how it works
when i was i before ashy ten years before i started to study as a therapist william glasser who was a psychologist wrote a book on what he called choice theory and basically he said that in every situation
we have a choice in every situation we have a choice even if it doesn't feel like a good one
so right now we're dealing with
global warming are dealing with eh
climate change accelerating in a scary and rapid way
we're dealing with the delta virus and it's all it's dreadful fall out so we don't have the choice of the existence of these realities we do have a choice of how we respond into them
ah and that i think that are good choices are desparate can be decisions that we keep making that keep leading us in the direction we have made perhaps vows to go in
so many years ago ah
when i was teaching an honors english class to seventh graders i i taught from this story about choice
written by the french writer albert khumbu and extent who was called last shoot the fall some of you may know it
and in this story the lead character shown that kissed claim ours is a parisian lawyer
and
one evening he's taking a stroll across the sin river and the pourquoi oil bridge and up on a parapet way up he sees a woman
clearly contemplating jumping off the parapet
and he stops for a moment
and then he continues walking
and a minute later he hears him cry
and then he hears a splash no water
and the story continues and in the last scene of the novella shumpert kissed his inner dark bar in amsterdam and he's talking to the man or woman on the next bar stool and he's basically saying
aim that he really lives that moment of choice every moment of his life

this morning i do want to consider choosing
so one of the practice is that i cherish at bc see mister monday morning
way seeking my talks i i love to hear
each person story always different
always different some people stumble into practice some people are backed up in the practice some people
leap forward into practice no matter but the stories are quite wonderful an idiosyncratic but the the commonness there is a common thread i think to all of them which is that at some level there's an impulse or a call a
a pool or whatever we want to speak of here joseph cambell cause names this call a whisper he says we do and we have to at some level be ready we're willing to hear this whisper
this poll
amid the din and cacophony of of world sound
and then even with perhaps great doubt or with life circumstances that may temporarily blow ah us that we we find ways to follow this call to something that
taxi beyond our comprehension or understanding fully but it's very powerful within us so we have made actually a choice
to respond to the call
when i was first thinking about getting this talk i was sitting at my desk writing down some notes and a song kept coming in my head and kept in actually interrupting what i was trying to write down upon a gun
very annoying and finally i escape up and i lizards of the song and the song is a some enchanted evening from south pacific which was a broadway musical and that song was sung by this most wonderful baritone
on is to have a pin down and it's a song about of french planter who lives on some south sea island and the singing about finding his true love
so i couldn't quite get a hold of why that was interrupting me until i listened to the words sorted from a different way rather than finding
when to love may be finding once whispered call so let me say the words to you because i just found this fascinating about this inner longing connection with what we call the absolute but which goes by many names
some enchanted evening
you may see a stranger
you may see a stranger across a crowded room and somehow you know you know even then that somewhere you'll see her again and again
some enchanted evening someone may be laughing
you may hear them laughing across a crowded room
a night after night as strange as it seems
the sound of her laughter will sing in your dreams who can explain it who can tell you why
fools give you reasons
wise men never try
some enchanted evening when you find your true love when you feel her call you across a crowded room
then fly to her side and make her your own
or all through your life you may dream all alone
once you have found her never let her go
once you have found her never let her go
so that's from zen masters richard rodgers and oscar hammerstein
so here's this choice to follow this heart call
is the place that many people choose to ignore
and turn away from for how many reasons of fear of entering an unknown space of fear of leaving what's comfortable and what's known laziness oh many on many many things and some people choose to follow
bad to answer this call so to speak
the poet william stafford talks about this in another way
he says there is a thread you follow
it was among things that change
but it doesn't change
people wonder about what do you are pursuing
you have to explained about the thread but it is hard for others to see
when you hold it you can't get lost
tragedies happen people get sick or die and you suffer and grow old nothing you do can stop times unfolding
you don't ever let go of the thread
well of course we do at times let go of the thread we we forget it we get lazy we deny it
or somebody we dearly love dies
or leaves us or we suffer a great life disappointment
horse dung when we love or we ourselves endure great connor
go pain
oh and turned away in anger or despair or depression or denial from the thread
the threat is always there at some level of are being i believe once we have found it
and surely the thread never let go of us
and that's
that's good news i think to we're called into practice we choose to to listen to this whisper and we come in to practice and then as we deepen into practice we begin to come more face to face with the
places where where challenge dinner lives by old patterns by judgmental thoughts maybe a pervading repeating sense of inadequacy
all of us with pretty much without exception bumped into our tendency to cling to whatever it is we cling to thoughts feelings even the desire to be enlightened we hold onto we we have all have that pattern
and we have a comparing mind a ranking mind often so we are looking at ourselves and out in the world from rank from hierarchy and lower archy so to speak
so i've been working with the cohen for a while from now with test to do
with his i'm gonna actually read versions of it the it's an interesting contrast and she the first version is from in the book of acronym day case number thirty eight
attention rinzai address the assembly saying there is a true person of no rank he is always leaving and entering the gates of your face you beginners who have not witnessed him
look look thereupon a monk asked how about this to man of no rank rinse i got down from the seat and grabbed him
the monk hesitated and rims i pushed him away saying this true man of no rank what a shit stick he is
when version
and this second version is found the hidden lamp
which is a zen stories edited by our own susan moon and florence cashflow i'm gonna disproved part of this the essence of this
the lay woman you doubt po made donuts for a living she also studied chan
chinese sin with master lung ye who is choi who told her to contemplate lynch's phrase the to person of no rank
one day as he was delivered ringtones on at she met a beggar who was singing happiness in the lotus land you but suddenly enlightened and through her tray of donuts to the ground there are a number of stories for these donuts wind up hunting ground
you went to see issued a lanky who immediately be verified her awakening when day after this long he asked the assembly which one is the to person of no rank and you shouted out
out this verse there is a two percent of no rank who has six arms and three heads when she uses her full strength to cut mount hua is split into two
so
indistinct to now and the indies and an emphasis really
when she lived during the tang dynasty in china and lynch's is rinzai in japan and in a nutshell he was committed to helping people wake up and sometimes these stories are quite
excited and can't get cut off and people are shaken and yelled at them sticked
hopefully with the emphasis to get people to wake up
dick down hand says of rinzai that an i'm quoting here rinzai invented the word a business lists person love this word a business less person one who has nothing to do
and nowhere to go
so in mahayana buddhism such a person was the bodhi sad for a compassionate being who on the path of enlightenment helped others
this person doesn't run after enlightenment or grasp at anything even if that thing is the buddha
this person has simply stopped she is no longer caught by anything
even series are teaching the business lists person is the true person of no rank inside each one a bus this is the essential teaching of master lin she
so many g or bonsai asks who is this true man of no rank
and the monk back he hesitates and rinzai says this two men have no rank what it should stick he is
you don't posts it with this question given to her by her teacher to contemplate until it ripens in her and she understands and awakens coming into her full strength
as a two person of no rack so she can with one blow cut mount hua in into

we all have our places i think where we rank we rank ourselves
we rank and judge other people
and we at least project how other people are ranking and judging us
and we make without necessarily full awareness subtext said ranking that we may do when we learn someone's profession or when we see their life activities or their ways of being their behavior
you may do it by class we may do it by race
so
titles profession and professional titles like president care
rushing
center
a homeless person
a scholar a mother
a generous person
person of color
and as we are putting these labels on their it in kind of and and current ranking that can go along with that a comparative ranking and these are kind of ways in which we say who we are
if some level by the comparing
the lynch's question remains as question who is the true person
of no rank is a power for one and it really cuts to the heart of this process of how in fact we do rank and compare and each time we do that
whether consciously or precognitive say
we are making a choice and that part of the choice is to continue and strengthen a habit formation habit pattern
so that that pattern of ranking get stronger or we can make a choice we can make a vow and have an intention toward noticing when we are ranking when we are comparing and observing that process
keeping a company taken a hand would say
i'm not clinging to it
and using the skillful means that are part of practice for product what we'd learned to do to allow that to the present and to decrease its valence
so that each time we make that choice not to buy into the habit formation but to learn to notice it
and to be present with it without holding it it we can see that pattern a little bit
potentially each time and that's the good news that's good news of our practice same thing
so

when the in the relative realm to be a to prison of no rank goes against the whole of our of our cultural
imperative to be somebody that's we learn that when quite early we learned way before kindergarten comparative thinking and ranking in families we learned in school who who's the better athlete who's better at math who's smarter who's prettier
who's whatever it is
so we know where we're early trained for ranking
and even at the level of our first meeting in in this culture particularly we asked particular questions in it's interesting when you actually listened to what the question tour because they have some in current possible ranking underneath them so when we meet somebody say
we will ask quite early on what do you do
well that's a harmless enough question except if somebody says i'm a custodian or somebody says i may sticky yo the we we may vary possibly do as subtle internal ranking about that where are you
from
where are you really from is another question where did you go to college
how old are you
where do you live
are you married of these have
in possible assumption they go with them and rankings
in these days we might be saying something like what do you think about what happened on january sixth the capital
etc we put the but that has that's loaded it's already a rank load
and then it becomes really interesting to consider given this comparative to be somebody
in this culture who would we be
how would we be what what would we be without any any such frank url or labels
actually is an electrifying sought
quaint freeing actually if we witness you doubt pose great exhilaration at the freedom and it can be a frightening one as well
to be without any way of saying who we are at all and that seemed to have been a piece of the monks back or hesitation least that's how i sure that are see that
but it's interesting to imagine how would our lives be
without any such rank
at all
can we speak in the dharma often about non-self we speak of the
capping a way of body and mind and many of us have had experiences of this and we have this really as an aspiration on the one hand and yet we each of these places
that we that we cling to so it's really challenging work this is not as they say not work for sissies to keep choosing to notice the places where we hold on where we cling to rank to judgment to formulate
patients so
yeah
but
i am thank you for a minute if you will to just take a moment care and and the look into your own life experience feel into the places in yourself
where are you know where you're aware
and compare
with yourself judge yourself and or others this take a moment to this

this new just to really i have this bow
the to not compare and it's easier said than done but i have this intention to not be ranking or comparing
and one of the ones that i work with their many but one of the ones that i worked with this i have this long term ah fear of public speaking so
and i really have to work with it arises up and i stay with it and i work with it and i'm aware of it and i keep a company is ticking on hunters and i use all the various skillful means that we've learned in this practice and i think it's better here i
i am the smoking is better i and i still have to keep working with it when it rises up and stay with it until that for the body mind cloud moves off again

i'm nobody who are you
are you nobody to
then they're superior other s
don't tell that banish as you know
how dreary to be somebody how public like a frog to tell your name to live long day to an admiring bug
captain another zen master emily dickinson who gets it all in
he lines
roshi touch again bernie glassman was the time the six dresser of hukou you tyson my sumi roshi and at one point after my zumiez death huh
to his teachers
tradition made the decision to disrobe
and famously took to wearing very bright hawaiian shirts
and his recent this would down apply for necessarily it all for other people with rope but he felt that the rope as a mark of rank
have a defined status in a sense would would get in the way for him have a heart mind
connection with others with a person or with other persons
so he chose to
the rank so to speak in that sense and another way that i think he lived out this to person of know frank
i'm he came often to the centennial in los angeles because that was his hometown as the home tempo and put always be giving a dharma talk when he came me
when he ended his talk and there would be questions he would respond to the questioned but he said after every response as just my opinion man every time i just my opinion he used to smoke cigars i think and and probably had to stop for health reasons but he used to do this
sort of groucho marx think with this occurs and is just my opinion man
and i heard that as
i received that as an invitation for me to go in and trust my own not knowing or my possible eventual knowing
as opposed to necessarily looking out for for answers and another of his great teachings were job valued was his he famously chose to step forward to say yes he chose yeah
s all the time and instead of time for that walking off the hundred foot pole he talked about clenching off the hundred foot pole
and that's a nice simple for me the for the two percent of no rank this freedom is deeply available

so the teaching story of the ox harder is i think my most cherished story in all of our practice if there are those that don't know the story i would encourage you to look it up it's a beautiful story often was a wonderful illustrations and
poetry that go along with it it's ten pictures of a an ox herder
who goes off in search of the ox which represents enlightenment eventually and so you see him progressing along and the foxes the ox is hidden behind bushes in you just see his tail and so on and so forth and eventually he encounters the
ox and then they both disappear
is awakened an enlightened and then in the next last picture i think it is you see him riding back home on the back of the ox playing his flute
and in the very last picture he is it was just called returned to the marketplace which is interesting returned to everyday life
and he is described as being a little pot bellied by that point and little scruffy and dusty and the enters the quote marketplace him maybe to be your next door neighbor the guy down the street whatever but the then there's this interesting craze with bliss but
showing hands which i think is
the most beautiful description i can imagine
per a bodhisattva energy so
he's basically seeing what is to need it
and he's responding to what is needed but the essential thing here i think is that he is responding from wow
with bliss bestowing hands
so we we chant vous every day
in our practice and each of us may also have in our own personal practice vows that we say or chant every day and reinforce for ourselves as our particular expression of
of commitment so when i took to chi when it took the precepts we as is always so into cairo was given a dharma name
and i understood that darman immense as it was explained to me as well the represented both are my true nature and my practice aspiration shelton to for me to be to embody to live into lumens
as heartedness and to see
and know the luminous heart of all sentient beings that's my personal vow and then
when the larger and larger the other vow is on what we chant variously and different traditions with whom and i was first doing this we used to say sentient beings are numberless i vowed to save them all
and later was changed to sentient beings are numberless i vowed to serve them all so this is the under girding vow in the mahayana tradition to choose not just to respond but to respond
and by vow to see what is needed and to be
it to embody the vow we can say maybe the ox herder was in vowed
and embodying this great freedom
of being a person of no rank to prison of no rank the unweighted ness of it
the business business or that didn't a hand would say
so we all begin
ah come into practice choosing at some level to respond to this call
have a nice honeymoon period sometimes in practice and then whoops we come to our stuff
we have to see works again and again works and we have this vow to keep trucking to keep working to keep seeing more clearly one of the prayers that i say is may i see that which i don't yet see
may i be open to hear but i don't yet here
the laser this is how we live by these fouls that we choose
so we can sense into potentially more and more the person of the to person of know frank fifth in each one of us
i think maybe i'll stop here now and still weekend and i've talked together so please bring a question for if you'd like to share what might have risen up for you when i invited you to consider patterns you may have her frank
king i especially invite those of you who may ten not to speak to step off the hundred foot pole we would love to hear your voices and your thoughts
thank you
kerry artem i invite you done with yourself
aren't the lobby i carry i'm gonna play out to see a play devil's advocate
go
dorgan speaks of on you know a apart settles some parts settled best
blow on the shelf and some parts settled best high on the shelf
how do you negotiate
that kind of on ranking of the parts with your
person of no rank
but i don't know that reference i don't know the reference from dogan but i'm sunk can stay a little more morbid
well he just he just speaks of on
in a metaphorical way he speaks of how certain things settle and are you know i can particularly
session with when surgeon you know working with sergeant for so many years as a student he would you know you got positions and it was pretty much clear that it was based on where you were add in your practice
if following so as men of a rank yes
so i'm just asking us as devil's advocate and you know dogan was using pots as an example and i think it was a potential kyoko where where he speaks to that because there's a lot about kitchen references in it
okay that so that's my question how do you negotiate
this low rank idea with ah differentiation so there's the you know the yeah vertical and the heart the horizontal and vertical right
yeah
as i understand it and this is just my opinion man the hear her and as much as i understand this and at any place we may be placed in rank if you started job you started the entry level and you have a tighter
oil at that level you have a a rank assigned to you or if you get to be such and such a position in the sendo that's a position or a rank so that's the external then the than the choice elements have to do with how do you be with that
how do you how do you notice that you're comparing or you're feeling and v or you're judging have somebody else rings the bell and does whatever bows and at tara you can go in that latter choice or you can notice that per
maps you're doing that but i think that's the horizontal then and work with it button it if it's actually not horizontal if the a bit you you could tell you in a way you horizontal polis it if there's such a verb
edwards ranking isn't what we're telling that is an internal process
not not the expert those external ranking everywhere in the world than that exists existed that
that's there and then how do we be with that how do we work with how we rank
or experience of these ranking us how do we become eventually a two person of no rank
that's how i understand that bouquet
not good enough thank you
kelsey curl and please on meet yourself
mining technology ethical manage
your tacos awesome
it really it really just was the right talk for me right now
i'm thinking about some different ranks in my life right now
i'm pretty pregnant
and expecting seven and
just kind of this whole news face in his whole new identity
has been a whole different level of ranking and comparing
what other people who are pregnant and also as i look for the parenthood
and there's this kind of almost privilege right now that i received or that i perceived that i receive people when they come across me the grocery store will you go oh excuse me you know would give me lots of room to waddle pass them
and then and then my friends who his babies are our earth's side you know there's kind of this this brand call a sudden that goes down and all the sudden like post-partum pad or mom is no longer you know cut off given this space and all this honor and all that stuff
and so there's this piece of me were when we talk about know rank
and be encouraged to lean into the beauty of the strength that it takes to be apparent or mom and to really see how
i guess
honorable and like ranked that is is that's that's kind of words landing for me
and so there's this like encouragement of not being humble and not being on yeah about that that aspect and i'm not i'm not there yet but there this kind attention that i feel often when there's places where you are maybe society all the sudden lower rank and
and am you know trying to lean into know that's not true so that's kind of the the stuff that it stirred up for me
thank you
i have a memory of with you when you're sharing of that the privilege sodas fruit of the pregnancy at least in part of our culture that's not everywhere but in parts of our culture that is so then delivering the baby and becoming virtually invisible because then people
only see the baby and how beautiful the bbc in of as a sideline to oh yeah hello
the fucking passing that's a very typical thing and if and i don't think i understand be interesting to hear i feel bad i don't think i understand being a person of no rank as not being able to ah see and give deep value
two and the value of of good parenting is about is the best job in the whole world i mean can be until firm in my view so it's not a div i don't understand no rank as a devaluation
one
i think i ranked being a person of no rain
affecting you just called me on ranking a person or being a record
yeah yeah
the only
well thank you for that
lovely esteem can see go to go well with his time thank you here
sandeep l i invite you to meet yourself
rice antique thank you so much for taught a lake a lock him up for me and and mainly because i feel like a had to become a prisoner of no rain from such a young age and hold multiple
prospective oh i can't hear you and hold what multiple points of view i'm at the same time
and so that was based on like me having to survive day to day and like get with that we all need to do that i didn't have much of its way but it's gotten now as i've gotten older and embraced but i've gone and can develop more agency i
understand the responsibility that comes with power and i feel like i'm climbing a mountain and they can see more and more an ideal i am
well who are in positions of power needs you there what voices more and fell and really like
encouraged by the fact that more am white folks are talking about talking about uncomfortable thing and how we can have not one point the view and diapers diversity and all get along together there doesn't have to be a hierarchy you can
be equanimity in no rain
yes to all that you said thank you sandeep i am
just wanna pick up them when piece for a second which is that there are people who have phenomenally high rank in some way we don't have kings and queens in our culture but we do have movie stars in basketball heros
and sometimes the occasional ceo who could be may be generous what a concept so
and can use that rank to act for good at from to good so long as they don't take themselves heavily so they keep themselves like and don't buy into the press so to speak about
that but yes may i be so that as we i also think another piece of that is the
part of us as we work developmentally we say we need to develop but as self
the the interaction on blending goals the self and so that's another component of fist for me
ah
and i
i'm also happy that we are
beginning to truly open to
where our country with our country even got founded and where we are historically and how work how we have to take a look at and act from choosing to make changes in the whole process of
racism anti racism and prejudice is across the board yeah think keep an event or the enchantments are using year with this year remote
sprint
well he can thanks nice to see you some deep
ron d slash charlie please on meet yourself

charlie after unmute yourself
platinum
here you go okay thank you so much penelope tremendously varied and rich talk i appreciate it very much but i also thinking back to south pacific
there's a song that mary martin saying that i will d gender eyes and say i wanna watch that person ride out on my hair and send them on their way
have you thought about mary's singing i know i'm pretty much stayed with easier pienza but
i'm not sure that watching somebody out of my here so to speak or one washing somebody added their hair ah
has to do so much with was certainly have to do with preference that sure
okay bought out a fragmented and different way from your talk eight and ten mention a person have no business with business and that would be a tea lady
you're familiar with the the various tones about the two ladies
no i mean the oh alright well the pretty ladies have a tea shop and the monks come by and a
by t from her and then they start arguing about the dharma and then she comes out and gives them a singer and in it's all over
so she has her business but and she ejects herself into their argument but she ends the argument so it's both and it's it's big mind and a small mine followed the same time and all of those stories
i can do i now but i didn't understand what you were referring to billion in the coins that i read especially in the hidden lamp cause there's so many t women in and don't up ladies in these with people of ostensibly less rank and we could say in culturally speaking and they're the ones with the
wisdom each time and they do this sort of rinzai
shake up line i'm not so sure they're washing somebody out of their hair or here in ohio as they are
cutting with a very sharp sword
the way that means i did in the in the cohen
didn't your shit stick
right we wake up your it
well
if you use a sharp sword the right way you get rid of her person
you get rid of the eco yeah
if if the point of the sword can find the ego yeah yes hopefully so will thanks again you're welcome thank you
ross ross plum
q i was a penalty good morning to you go in the heart sutra we yet all dharmas are marked with emptied
though my question is
what choice do we have is things fundamentally are empty
well think job but i think i'm speaking more in the and in the relative realm in in the absolute ram all things her are empty but we're not we're not living from that place completely were over a that's an aspiration to be in that
that level of of freedom of non rank of the how it will however you want to describe that but we don't
live there each moment we have to keep
lurking the material as it rises up
that's my that's how i take that they see yeah
i feel a little differently that emptiness is always there that we actually are living in agonist and the form or the discernment that combat for us to the choices that we make come up in the so-called relatives world but it's all one thing and so the emptiness and louise air which
from me beg the question when i am
have an idea make a choice
but you know the birdie his opinion man thing can of is the choice because it's my cause the conditions that are bringing the choice
in focus right and it is easy to forget that
we're quarter missing in the world of emptiness we are wet where corsi are living in the work that in this world of emptiness and if we forget that that it winds up being a raking say and i'm thinking about gary's question about where it is a pot go well for stuck on the emptiness
die than the pots are going to go anywhere that's not going to work for our kitchen so we had to find you know what's the appropriate place for things to be and rest and subtle like wears a blue or appropriate place for me to settle the by taking up too much time now as we're talking and i want to make room for a kid here so i'm good
to say goodbye now does the choice i make it is okay
thank you
kabir
hi penelope i hi
impulse you know so that the book imagine some of the highly seventy five the seven habit of very effective people people yeah that you said that there's a there's a space
does for me impulse kind of blow torches it
it i just go for it and have so a times it it turns out nice but a lot of times it doesn't i mean
so
how do you how do you tame that the fire of impulse in you know that shake would i like oh yeah moods i'm gonna do it up and i'll just say what to do
you yeah the speed of light
it is almost to speed of that that's a colon you've just created they're better than a rapier that and he and he's describing or in that sentences describing between the stimulus and response there is this millisecond there is this place and so
so when you say how to tame that chump impulse how to tame it is is sam
his work over time it's observing and it's feeling the impulse learning how to over time maybe recognize the impulses it rises to jump and to see how it is to hold the impulse desperate a second longer or a guy in all the
skillful ways that we are taught to be with something without necessarily immediately enacting it but it's a process in the relative realm i would say
absolutely they were dealing on living in emptiness or not we're still dealing day to day with these behaviors that that hinder us so high to how to work with that yes thank you are just keep trying
it doesn't not to not to blame or he be be made excuses but
we're also so tempted
to be passed her to be more spun to be more romantic to be more to be have this you know i mean we're living in some sarah ferguson yeah so i mean i'm i just keep getting back up that's it
down and nine up as they say
it has kept leaping to skip cupid
thank you so much thank you as always thank you thank you